Incest: the ordeal of mothers who want to protect their child

D.children victims of incest who are not believed and who are sent to spend the weekend with the attacking parent, mothers accused of manipulation and who are called into question: the protection of children is often full of inconvenience for mothers.

The Independent Commission on Incest and Sexual Abuse of Children (Ciivise), mandated by the government to develop public policy recommendations to better protect children, will organize public meetings for incest victims on 11 May in Nancy and on 16 May. May in Paris. Two new stops on a tour in France where the testimonies of mothers return like a litany.

“My daughter refuses to spend time with her father, whom she accused since the age of four of touching her genitals,” testifies Adèle (name changed). “I am accused of + parental alienation + by my ex-husband, his lawyers and the associations of fathers who support him, of having manipulated my daughter towards her father. My daughter and I are suspects, subjected to numerous psychological tests for seven years and procedures. I live in fear of losing custody and being placed, “she told AFP.

La Ciivise denounces this “parental alienation syndrome” (PAS), not officially recognized and defended by the controversial and influential American psychiatrist Richard Gardner. The European Parliament, in a resolution of October 2021, urges EU states “not to recognize (the SAP) in their judicial practice and in law”.

A petition launched by the feminist association #NousToutes to ban it in France has collected 27,000 signatures, including those of many psychiatrists and NGOs. Five associations, including CDP-Enfance, Reppea and Peau d’âme, wrote an open letter along the same lines to the future president in April.

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“160,000 children are victims of sexual violence every year, they must be found and protected. They often talk to their mother about it ”, observes Edouard Durand, co-president of Ciivise. “If you go to the police station and say that your cell phone has been stolen, you are believed; if you reveal sexual violence, the risk will be great of being accused of forgery. However, the risk of misrepresentation is very low on the whole number of children in danger “, observes this judge of children.

“My son, when he filed a complaint with the youth brigade, described the penetrations, + the pee in the buttocks + that his grandfather, early childhood facilitator, subjected him to. When he returned from his father’s house, where he was raped by his grandfather, he was pale, he had lost the joy of living. The doctors found wounds (…), anal fissures, made a complaint. Yet my complaint was rejected “, explains Marie (name changed) to AFP, who practices a health profession.

“My ex-husband accused me of exploiting our son and of parental alienation syndrome. My son and I were subjected to a social investigation for four years. And for my son, hearings and hearings, where he constantly relived his parents. trauma. It takes a lot of energy to resist and a lot of money to pay the lawyers, “he adds.

From February, as recommended by the Ciivise, the magistrates no longer have to prosecute the “protective parent” who refuses to hand over the child to the parent suspected of sexual violence, while the judge checks the accusations. La Ciivise wishes to go further: that in the event of criminal prosecution for sexual violence, the exercise of parental authority and the right to visit are suspended by law.

“This is not contrary to the presumption of innocence, any more than the provisional detention of a suspect while investigating a crime. But it protects the child,” notes Judge Durand.

“We maintain a system in which the child spends the holidays with the abuser. It is difficult to report the father and live with him. This is one of the reasons for the high number of unpaid classifications, in the order of 70%. housing means protecting the investigation, protecting the minor from the pressure of the presumed adult “, explains the lawyer Pascal Cussigh, president of the CDP-Enfance Child Protection Association.

05/10/2022 09:49:01 – Paris (AFP) – © 2022 AFP

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